Junho de 2020 - 3 Myths ...

3 Myths That Stop People from Asking for Help at Work

People dread asking for help from colleagues and strangers in the best of times. They worry about looking bad, being rejected, imposing on others juggling family and work responsibilities or taking up valuable resources.

But comfortably and confidently asking for help requires refuting a number of misperceptions that have been uncovered in research – myths that are likely to be heightened as a result of the ongoing crisis.

Myth 1: Asking for Help Makes You Look Bad

We often worry that asking for help at work is a sign of incompetence or weakness. However, the research finds such worries to be largely unfounded. Not only is it a myth that asking for help makes you look bad, in some cases it can even paint you in a more positive light.

Myth 2: If I Do Ask for Help, I’ll Be Rejected

Another reason we may refrain from asking for help is the fear of hearing “no. Again, the research shows that people regularly surprise us, both with how willing they are to help, and how much effort they are willing to put into helping us. It means that not only are people more likely to say “yes” than we think, but when they do agree, and counter to expectations, they tend to go above and beyond.

Myth 3: Even if Someone Agrees to Help, They Won’t Enjoy Doing So 

When we think of asking someone for help, we tend to focus on the costs we are imposing on them. We forget the good feelings that come from doing someone a favor, it can even help lift someone out of a negative emotional state. This means that having the opportunity to help someone else right now may have a mood-lifting effect.

This is a time when we should feel more, not less, comfortable asking for and accepting help. There’s plenty of evidence that others are less likely to judge us and more likely to help us (and enjoy doing so) than we think.

Adapted From Harvard Business Review